Stepping out of the comfort zone is one of the hardest things to do for most. I face the struggles too no matter how much I motivate myself to be. Rigidity is what we partake as stability. Change is the hardest bit to deal with.
Maybe all we need to do is broaden our horizon and be open to newer experiences. At least that’s what one can believe in not knowing if they could be good or bad. But whatever they maybe they would bring a good amount of learning. Another important aspect is of trying out things that challenge / scare you. Personally I have read this tip and I’m yet too scared to try it out. But one bit at a time, I’m trying my best to make the change required.
Just like a warm cup of coffee on a cold morning, we tend to soak in all the comfort of where we think we’re best accustomed. But there’s a whole world out there begging to be explored.
‘Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new’ –
“He’s not going to make the cut” / “She’s obviously never heard of class” / “This entire thing is doomed for failure”. Quite often we come across people who are resorting to a quick judgement about people or situations. The way we have been brought up, our society has kind of baked this system in to us. From early school days, parents will be cautious about the friends you make. “Company maketh a man”. Or so they say.
As we grow older, we tend to draw out of our experiences and begin to stereotype people. Notions are widespread about the community one belongs to / experience they bring. Then you have qualitative ones. The kind of people you feel uncomfortable around for no good reason. “I have a bad feeling about this”. Many a times situations prompt the same response.
It’s quite natural for us to jump to conclusions. Some highly opinionated individuals take it upon as their birth right to have an insight on just about everything. Makes me think about how much can one know to really have a point of view about nearly everything. But, what i wonder most is that when people are drawing these judgements and passing them off unaware people, why does it mostly have to be negative? You could also come up with a real positive one. I think one needs to think ahead of themselves, in the larger perspective to really think on those lines. Just to think about it, if all of us were to just spend one entire day appreciating each other, wouldn’t the world seem like a much happier place? To me, it would sure would. Even with the judgement bit thrown in.
I’ve been catching up on my reading & thought it would be good check out one on behavioral psychology. I love the recommendations from the Amazon store and it so much more intelligent & richer than Flipkart. The Kindle has driven up my reading by at least 5 times. Anyways, the book i’m reviewing this time is 59 Seconds by Richard Wiseman. I’ve read one of his books called Quirkology before & i really like his style of explaining simple habits & events. Richard always puts forward a theory or a hypothesis and backs it with facts & research. Undeniably this puts the focus on implementation. His facts compel the person to try out little knick knacks towards becoming a better one.
Richard emphasizes on expressing gratitude & thinking about a perfect future by cataloging them in to a journal. Evidently, writing down clears up ones thought process and needs just 5 minutes a day. He explains what are the key differentiating features when several candidates appear for an interview to how successful people set measurable goals which include spending time with loved ones. He sets up a plan at the end of nearly each chapter of the book to guide one in to making changes and in some cases he even throws in an exercise or two to help you understand yourself better. I got to know from one simple one that i’m right brained (that one didn’t even need me to fill a questionnaire or look at some fancy images). Some other insights are in to how people are receptive to new ideas when they are relaxed, that pop music / jazz have the same relaxing effect as total silence & classical music can help in lowering one’s blood pressure!
He touches on nearly all aspects of any person’s life from relationships, parenting, decision making to personality. All the chapters are interspersed with simple hacks that can help just about anyone. I think this is a good read for anyone looking to cut out procrastination / looking for making changes in behavior or habits / to simply improve their decision making. The takeaways make this one totally worth it!